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Condoms with AP
October 30, 2012
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AP and I have stopped using condoms. I mandated condom usage at first, the whole STD/STI issue. Birth-control is not an issue: I have had my tubes tied and OM has had a vasectomy. Condoms were only for infection reasons.

I trust OM and truly believe I am his first AP (and only current AP). He is the second AP for me and my only current AP. We recently stopped using condoms.

What do you do?

October 30, 2012
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condoms till tested. because you just don't know who might have hepatitis. oddly enough I'm more worried about that as an STD.

Of course, you can't test for HPV until it's too late (abnormal pap) but I guess I roll the dice with that one.

October 30, 2012
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We started off with them all the time every time. Then it was mostly a birth control issue and I'd notice he'd not put it on unless we were going to finish that way. We didnt' really talk about it. We DID talk about the STD and tests and everything first, way before getting to know each other.

Eventually we talked about the bc and what ifs, etc. We talked about that for months before we felt comfortable it would be safe.
I do not trust bc at all and even my H has to wear condoms each and every time. Funny I trust him less than my OM. I am much safer on bc anyway, my hormones are much better under control that way.

October 30, 2012
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I've never used a condom with my OW. She has trusted me right from the start that the only one I've been with is my W. And that was almost a year ago which is the reason why I have a OW. I had a vasectomy years ago.

October 30, 2012
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I used condoms with OW for several months but OW didn't like the feel of the latex. She's since gone on bc and when she has problems getting an appt with her doctor for the bc shot we use Plan B as a backup.

October 30, 2012
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I can't stand condoms, the feel ,the smell. A real turnoff for me. I'm sooo glad that my OW doesn't make me use them.

October 30, 2012
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Started with them and then stopped, she became single, my marriage was sexless, we are both clean what's the point – and we – like most – HATE THEM.

"Most people would rather be certain they're miserable, than risk being happy." -Robert Anthony β€œIt does not take much strength to do things, but it requires a great deal of strength to decide what to do.” ― Elbert Hubbard "The path of least resistance is the path of the loser." - HG Wells
October 31, 2012
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CM and I used them first time and every time for a few months. Interestingly, to me anyway, was that the men my own age that I spoke to (40-48 or so), typically had a bit of resistance to using them. They didn't like the way they felt, they insisted they were clean, they didn't know where to keep condoms in case their wives found them, blah, blah, blah. With CM, it was never a question as to whether we would use them, and he would always buy them. After a few months, we decided we didn't need them anymore. I can't get pregnant, so it isn't an issue for us.

November 1, 2012
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Coincidentally, stbSW and I just started this conversation. We have been using condoms ALWAYS but yesterday she suggested we get tested so we can feel good about going natural. I am all in favor. She is young enough that pregnancy is a worry but I have been fixed for many years and know I am shooting blanks.
We will be talking about this tomorrow when we meet.

November 1, 2012
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Not a big fan of using condoms usually but tried the "Fire and Ice" ones recently. As far as condoms go, with the extra heat from the lubricant on these, they are great (at least for me they were)!
:o

November 1, 2012
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We used them in the beginning to avoid pregnacy and STD's but that lasted only a few short months if that. We've had a few pregnacy scares and when that happens we talk about protection but neve get around to useing them. I figure after all the times we've made love and nothing then I'd say we're pretty safe. There were times that we discussed/joked about having a child togther, I'd joke and say as long as it has his brains and my beauty it would be great. lol.

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