The Secret Affair Interviews #1

1) Age, sex, marital status
I am a 33 year old female who has been married for 11 years

2) When did you first begin your affair? How did you meet your affair partner?
About 3-4months ago. We originally met at work but stopped working together before the affair actually started.  It started very casually about a week after I left that job.

3) What were the circumstances that led you to having an affair?
Sex, pure and simple. I haven’t wanted sex with my husband for probably 5 or 6 years. Since first having kids I guess. When I met my OM (other man) I was very physically attracted to him.  Both of us started out wanting a crazy one night stand.

4) Would you say that you are in an emotional affair or are you in it purely for the sex?
100% Emotional. We have yet to even HAVE sex even though that’s what it started out being about.

5) What impact has having an affair had on your marriage? Has it improved it? Made it worse?
It has improved my sex life with my husband ten fold for sure. I am so turned on after seeing or talking to my OM, HB (husband) gets the benefits of that. Other than our sex life I can’t really say it’s changed much. It has made me realize just how bad our marriage has been though.  I thought I could live without that emotional connection to someone, I’d given up on it and moved on or so I’d thought. Now that I’ve had that with someone I don’t know if I can keep going in my marriage without that.

6) How often do you get so see your affair partner? Where do you typically meet?
Usually only on weekends. My husband works weekends so OM and I will get together Sunday mornings and go hiking or for breakfast or just drive around and be together for a few hours.  Occasionally we’ll sneak a lunch date in here and there during the week if we can both get away from work.

7) Have you ever been caught or had a close call?

8 ) What precautions do you take to ensure you maintain secrecy?
Obviously not telling anyone about it!!  He doesn’t need to worry because he is single.  I have been trying not to do anything outside of my normal routine. I’ve always gone hiking one morning on the weekends, I limit msging or texting while I’m at home and try to do it all during the day at work.  I’ve asked him not to wear any cologne or scented stuff as the one time we did fool around I came home smelling like him and needed to shower before HB got home from work.

9) Do you ever feel guilty? If so, how do you manage those feelings?
At first I didn’t, occasionally when I look at my kids and what the ramifications of this could do to their lives I do.  I tell myself this is just a casual thing, that I’d never actually leave HB for OM.  You can justify just about anything when you put your mind to it unfortunately :(

10) What’s the best and worst part about being in an affair?
The best part is the emotional high you get from being with that other person you connect with, it’s like a drug. The worst is when things are not going so great and you have to go through it alone. You cannot talk about having an affair with all your married friends, it just does not happen.


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4 Responses to The Secret Affair Interviews #1

  1. Kris W June 6, 2011 at 4:14 am #

    Another fine advertisement for not getting married. Remember all married women are like this(since if they did get divorced the system would protect cheating wives over faithful husbands so we are left to assume that all women support this since women write the rules).

  2. pete July 31, 2011 at 2:04 am #

    i am a single guy having a affair with married women she married 30 years we had a affair 23 years ago at that time the affair just ended no break up no good by we reconnected and we both felt that we never miss a beat we reconnected like we never left whats up with that she dont know yet what to do with me she wont throw me to the curb what do we do i understand that she has 33 years invested any answers?

  3. heavenly October 14, 2011 at 1:09 am #

    uhmmmm, sorry but thats the dumbest thing I have ever heard. just becuase you set your mind to something, and get it finished, does NOT mean its justified.
    thats like saying you set your mind to killing your boss because you really hated her, you got the job done easily, and now she is out of your life, justifyingly.
    no matter how much you hated that person, it isnt jusitified. your taking someone’s life!! it isnt justified no matter what, i mean jesus if you really think thats okay, you might as well kill you husband and get it over with, because thats whats going to happen when he finds out you’ve been cheating on him, it will kill him! thats what lying does you freaking stupid people! especially when there are kids involved. dumb as hell!!

  4. Andy August 14, 2012 at 4:18 pm #

    You know, I think natural selection may eventually take care of all the cheaters.

    There will likely be another disease like aids that will kill off more of the cheaters because cheaters often cheat with many people and since cheater’s affair partners are also cheaters there is a much higher likelihood of being exposed to a deadly STD.

    If there is an after life the cheaters will receive their consequences sooner and the earth will have a higher percentage of people who are inclined toward monogamy and faithfulness in their marriage.

    I don’t see anything right about cheating for any reason. It hurts spouses, families and spreads disease.

    Natural selection is a very Darwinian solution to expedite evolution.

    Woman and men who cheat are definitely thinking with that little reptilian head between their legs.

    Perhaps they have not evolved past their reptilian brain in their big head either.

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